Speaking up about what makes you feel good! - We are here for that!
Whether you’re in the bedroom, chatting with friends, or exploring your solo self-care routine, learning to express your needs clearly (and confidently!) can be a total game-changer.
If that sounds intimidating, don’t worry—we’ve got you covered. Here are 10 ways to say exactly what you want, designed to make communication feel as fun and empowering as it should be. Let’s get started!
1. Own your desires
First things first: what do you want? Taking time to explore your preferences—whether that’s in solo play, intimacy, or just day-to-day life—is key. With VUSH’s self-care tools (hello, A-grade vibrators), you can discover new layers of pleasure on your own terms. Once you know what lights your fire, it’s much easier to share it.
2. Start with small wins
Practice saying what you want in everyday situations. Whether it’s choosing where to eat or picking the movie for a night in, getting comfortable voicing your needs makes it easier to speak up in bigger moments—like asking for that extra bit of slow, teasing touch in bed.
3. Be playfully specific
Who said asking for what you want has to be serious? Bring a little fun into your communication! Saying something like, “I’d love to try this new vibe from VUSH together—it’s supposed to be amazing for couples!” can turn a conversation into an adventure.
4. Use positive reinforcement
When something feels amazing, say it! Phrases like “I love it when you do that” or “That’s exactly what I like” are not just flattering—they’re educational. Everyone loves to know they’re nailing it, and positive feedback sets the stage for more of what you love.
5. Lean into curiosity
Not sure how to phrase it? Try, “What if we tried...?” or “Have you ever thought about…?” Framing your desires as an open-ended question invites collaboration and exploration, making it feel less like a demand and more like a fun experiment.
VUSH’s connection cards are perfect for this scenario! Vibe check-please!
6. Embrace a cheat sheet
Having trouble putting your thoughts into words? A little inspiration never hurts. VUSH’s online community is packed with insights and ideas to spark your creativity. From guides to pleasure to tips on spicing up your intimacy, we’ve got the goods to help you express yourself like a pro.
7. Get visual
Sometimes words aren’t enough—so show, don’t just tell. Whether it’s sharing a playlist that sets the mood, suggesting a fun scene from a rom-com, or pulling out your fave VUSH product, visuals can make your desires crystal clear without overthinking it.
8. Tap into technology
For those who love a little distance-built intimacy, sexting can be your best friend. A playful text like, “I was thinking about trying something new tonight. 😉” can set the stage for open (and exciting) conversations, giving you space to figure out what feels right- add a remote or app based pleasure product to the mix!
9. Make it about ‘us’
When discussing your desires with a partner, framing them as something you can explore together helps keep the conversation collaborative. Saying, “I’d love for us to try this” instead of “I want this” keeps the energy inclusive and open-ended.
10. Celebrate the wins
Every time you voice your needs or try something new, take a moment to appreciate how empowering that is. Owning your pleasure—whether that’s discovering it solo with VUSH or sharing it with someone special—is a big deal. Treat yourself to a little self-care (may we suggest a warm bath and your favorite VUSH toy?) and soak up that self-love.
The bottom line? Your voice matters, and so do your desires. Whether you’re just starting your pleasure journey or taking it to the next level, communicating what you want is an essential part of the process.
At VUSH, we’re here to help you embrace it all—with products, resources, and a community that’s as bold as you are. So go ahead: ask for what you want. Your pleasure is worth it.